Cheating isn’t a considerate thing to do, but it happens so, Check out the hecks you do next-
Talk to yourself for a second…
In a perfect world, you’d figure this shit out before putting your partner, yourself, and the third party in a compromising position. It’s hard, but ideally, man up if you cheated in the first place. To do that, you need to have uncomfortable conversations with yourself—and then your partner. If you love your partner but you think you’d also love to see other people consider ethical non-monogamy. It sucks to imagine BAE doing the dirty with someone else, but the worst part of cheating is the betrayal.
Speak up that you already cheated…
Before we move on, sorry, but you still must think about why you did it. Sometimes cheating is a cheap way to get out of a relationship. It’s like purposefully always showing up late to work because you’re miserable and want to quit but are too scared, so you fuck up on purpose to get fired. If you cheated because you’re unhappy, stop being a wimp and end things. The shittiest thing you could do is make someone (who at least at one point, you really cared for) go through the emotional turmoil of giving you and then dumping them anyways. It’s not fair to hold someone captive in a relationship that you’re secretly dying to get out of.
Cheating isn’t always a deal breaker.
If you still love your partner, and you cheated because you were going through a rough patch, apologize until your tongue bleeds and try to use the opportunity to grow. She may not even be surprised by your confession. If she still loves you, there’s a chance you can work through it. But you do have to give her ample time and space to forgive. Buying jewelry, flowers, and messages certainly won’t hurt your case for reconciliation.