I have been a dancer but I blew my right knee when I was 18 which pretty much ended any professional career I’d ever have. I went to strip club with my friend and I was hooked on the very first day. Later I and my husband got into a situation where we needed extra money so I thought ‘why not strip club’? The club where I worked had two shifts, Day shift and night shift. I worked the night shift where I had to reach there by 7 pm and work until 3 am. I had to work there for at least four days a week. I use to do my hair and makeup first as I had to look good on the floor. I’d to change my clothes and get my heels on and then check in with my DJ.
There were two poles on the main stage and it would start off with one girl on each. We use to go from one pole to another and then into a little area where there was a bar and we had to do our third set there. The girls there were on rotation. I use to earn big money, a lap dance is not cheap. I’d to come down off the stage and walk around, talk to a guy, flirt with him and initiate conversation so he’d want a private dance. ‘Your stripper personality cannot be the same as your regular personality, and you’d always have to have that turned on as a factor. You have to be flirty, it doesn’t matter if you’re married, you have to appear single otherwise you’re not going to get anything. You have to be their fantasy.’
I always got my money up front in the private room. There was a really nice and kind of dark VIP room. There were couches and mood lighting. I use to give them lap dance and no sex was involved in it. “My signature move was that I’d flip upside down. I would always take my shoes off, walking around in 7 and a half inch platform stiletto for eight hours was horrible. As soon as we got back there, I’d take them off. I would open his legs up, put my hands down on the floor and do a handstand and up onto his lap”. I have a very large chest so I use to stay covered on the stage so that guys would want to see what was beneath. That’s how I made most of my money, by not going topless on the stage but during the lap dance. I use to make money more than the other girls not because I was better than them but because I was curvy and they were size zero. I had brought in anywhere between £350-£4000 a night and most of it was lap dance money as the club don’t pay you hourly, I use to work only for tips. I was considered as an independent contractor and was renting my time o the stage. The club had a fee which I use to pay at the end of every night. That can range from £20 to £400 a night. And I’d to tip the DJ because if you don’t, you’re going to wind up dancing to an 8-minute song about ham sandwiches.
On my first night, I was terrified, I was scared, I was shaking in my platforms. But after that I never got uncomfortable. I was golden whenever I was on the stage. There has always been a good mix of guys and there was always that one creepy guy though, that nobody wanted to deal with. And the ones who always want to be touchy and who want your personal number, the ones who ask what you’re doing after work. “I absolutely had people trying to grab us and overstep the mark. My dad is a retired police officer, so growing up I was taught self-defense. Once, this guy tried something, and he wound up on the floor with my heel on his neck. I was daring him to move, and the DJ was calling me to the stage because it was my set. The security officer walked in and was like, ‘are you ok?’ and I was like ‘I’m not the one you need to be asking.” I was always am aware that I may need to protect myself because according to most people, women who wear short shorts are asking for it. Strippers are wearing less than that, but we’re not asking for it. All women should have their guard up around men regardless of the situation. Most women whose boyfriends go to a strip club freak out because they think they’re being cheating on them but for most of the guys, strippers are essentially their therapist in a thong. They use to talk about what’s going on in their lives and what’s happening at home. Like there was a guy who was about 70 who used to come in, he was so cute and we all wondered why he was in an establishment like this. His wife had passed away so all he wanted was communication. The first time he got me, I wanted to cry but couldn’t because I couldn’t mess up my eyeliner. I just wanted to hug him.
Earlier I used to be shy. But later the stage made me feel sexy and my confidence level went through the roof. The more confident you seem, the more money you get. But there is also a downside of the job that is the drama because there is a bunch of girls. There’s always like, ‘oh well she’s taking my customer’. I watched one girl drag another through a dressing room. She broke out the pepper spray and we all got sprayed in the face trying to get her off. I had to go out on the all swollen. Strippers also face problems in their relationships but I was lucky in that case. My husband always supported me. He once came to the club and sat at the bar with a beer. I acted like a regular guy and as soon I was done with my set I walked up to him and we went to give him a lap dance. He gave me money and then he was like ‘we’re having dinner with this when you’re free.’
Choosing lap dance as a career is not always for money. I have a stripper friend who is an ex-college professor and has a Ph.D. She does it because she loves it and wants other females to feel that empowerment and embrace their sexuality. Women should really take control of who they are. To me, dancing is a feminist act and I love my job.