We all have friends with whom we think alike and it’s great! But if they ask you to do things which are against your willpower or you have a better decision, then what can you do?
Our friends in school or locality or cousins of same age group and the one who have the same likes and dislikes are known as our peers. We feel so relaxed and happy with people we can connect with, we enjoy with them. It’s natural that we share our problems with them, we discuss with them and most importantly we listen to them.
But sometimes this friendship seems like a pressure and becomes less fun. The friendship slowly becomes a competition and feel like a stress. Things start to look different and sound different. This feeling and hassle is Peer Pressure.
Learn to say NO for things you are not ready for. NO is a difficult and rude word but if said in an optimistic manner can make you and other person feel good. Do what you feel is right for yourself. Don’t let the decision of your friend or friend group affect you or burden you. Stick to what you think is right and it will become easy for you. It will be a less pressure too.
Bring out new ideas. Be the person who suggests new things, new activities and make plans. Believe in yourself that your friends will join you in your plan. All you will have to do is make a little change according to everyone’s convenience.
Bring out your individuality. You don’t have to wear or carry expensive things just because your friends are using them. Be comfortable and confident in whatever you have. You don’t have to spend a fortune of money just to fit in your friend group. Carry what suits you and what makes you confident. No one is to judge you.
Don’t get influenced by your friends for things you know are not right. If they ask you to drink alcohol, smoke or involved in a sexual activity say straight away no! They may tease you or provoke you but you don’t have to and stand for yourself. Instead, tell them that they are on a wrong path and that they are not doing well with their lives. These things don’t make you cool, you are too silly if you follow these things if someone else tells you too.
Don’t do it because everyone is doing it. You don’t have to.
Give some good excuses to avoid the group you feel uncomfortable in. you don’t have to follow anybody’s clauses or decisions in friendship.
Be with people who have same thinking like you and with who you feel comfortable too. If you hang out with cool kids but you feel uncomfortable or that you don’t fit in, leave them, be with people who make you happy and bring out interesting conversations with you.
Also, if you feel that your peer is under pressure, speak out for them too.