It doesn’t make it any easier for women in their late twenties-thirties that there are attractive, cool dudes running around town appearing to be adults but they are children. Yes, children. I went on a date a few weeks ago and was counting the seconds until it got over as it would be much more exciting to sit at home and do nothing. It depressing to see boys in grown up designer suits can be real slick and sneaky. Before I start, let me be clear that I’m not a man hater here. Sure, I’ve had my fill of atrocious guys in my life, but I love the male species.
And while I was recognizing the man-child in this article, I know there are a fuck ton of painfully immature, unstable, terrible females running the singles streets as well but this article isn’t about them. Get your mental pen out for to figure out if you’re dating a Man or a Man-child.
Is he making any efforts?
Ask yourself if you feel confident that he’s going to call you, text you first, text you back, make plans to see you, show up when you plan something. If you have a gut feeling he could totally just disappear and not speak to you for a week, a month, or ever again, that sucks and you deserve better. Men offer an explanation and always make it up to you. Man-child’s say “It’s not a big deal.” If a dude is not making an effort to see you or is constantly bailing, he’s either not that into you or is a kid.
Is he open-minded?
Guys who aren’t willing to try new things because they’re sheltered/unadventurous/worried about what people think is the worst. Find a guy who won’t order the chicken tenders off the kid’s menu the next time you go out to dinner and thank us later.
Is he ambitious?
It was fine to date the hot waiter/funny stoner with no life goals at 22, but not now. You need a guy with a legit career or the drive/ambition to make a legit career happen. And let’s be clear this isn’t about money. Date a teacher, date a standup comedian–just make sure they either have a passion for what they’re currently doing or the ambition to make a career.
Does he take care of himself?
Is he active/concerned about health in the slightest or does he eat a burger every night in front of the TV then smoke a pack of Camels? As we grow up, we should take care of our bodies and feel good about ourselves; if he’s still in the fast-food-every-night land, snorting coke every weekend, and saying he’ll hit the gym/take up a physical activity next year, he might just be a man-child.
Does he bro out on social media?
Is he over-the-top on social media about hitting the club, hot chicks, all sports things etc.? Real men don’t have time for that shit. Guys posting on social media too much are weird anyway unless they’re legitimately hilarious and have hilarious stuff to say all day long, then it’s ok and please never stop else run girl!!
In closing, I just want to say not all these things are BAD; they’re simply signs of maturity and readiness for an adult relationship. Guys and girls are always in different stages in their lives, but this is for the lady who wants a serious relationship with a mature man but is wasting her precious time with a man-child.